( My book is not designed to provide psychological advice or to substitute for professional counsel. Its purpose is to increase your happiness by making you aware of the Consequences of all your thoughts and actions).
This is a prologue to my book:
When you read this book, you may have several questions running through your head about me.
- Why did I write How to be Happy and Have Fun Changing the World?
- Will this book be able to deliver the goods or am I just a dreamer?
- If the insights revealed in this book can make you happy or happier and help improve the world, why would I give something so valuable away for free?
I wrote this book for several reasons. The first one is because I love sharing the insights contained in this book with others and it makes me very happy.
The second one is because I wanted to reach a mass audience by addressing a subject that would appeal to most, if not all, of the people living in our country.
After all who doesn’t desire to be happy or happier and make our world a better place for themselves, their children and their children’s children?
The third reason is because I needed a feedback mechanism that you can easily relate to and cannot deny.
Everyone knows whether they are happy or unhappy. You can decide for yourself what gives you true and lasting happiness. You will be able to judge for yourself if what I share with you makes total sense.
The most important reason is that this book allows me to introduce you to eight words that will help you increase your self-awareness and happiness.
These eight words will help you make better choices that will change you and the world for the better, in the process. If you want to be happier and remain happy, this book will show you the way.
These words are:
“I am always truthful, positive and helping others.”
(These words have become my motto and of the 869 children I do volunteer work with in St Mary’s High School, Bedian Road Lahore)
Try repeating them to yourself for thirty days and implementing them in your life and you will feel a remarkable uplift and serenity.
If you can honestly say that you’re totally happy with all aspects of your life, are you happy with what is going on in the world?
Unless you never follow the local news and world affairs, or live in a cave in the Himalayas, you’re probably not happy about something or at least would like to improve it if you knew an effective way to bring about positive change. I would like you to reflect on this poem:
“The Joy of Life”
This is the true joy of life.
The being used for a purpose; recognized by yourself ; as a mighty one.
The being a force of nature instead of a feverish and selfish clod of ailments and grieving senses complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.
I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and that as long as I live it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can.
I want to be thoroughly used up when I die. For the harder I work, the more I live.
I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no brief candle to me.
It is a sort of splendid torch that I have got to hold up for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.
-George Bernard Shaw
As previously discussed, your positive and negative thoughts cause your brain to secrete chemicals. These chemicals, in turn, affect all your natural abilities and functions. Your thoughts have two components: facts and emotions. Every stimulus you receive through your nervous system is nothing more than a fact. However, you attach emotions to these facts.
It is imperative for you to realize that negative emotions cause adverse chemical secretions and hinder your natural abilities. Increase your awareness of the profound influence negative emotions have on your brain’s chemistry, performance and happiness. Become more objective and restructure any negative emotional attachment you have to certain facts.
Facts are merely facts. However, you can choose your emotional response to them.
Everything you eat and drink is a chemical, which affects your performance and how you feel. If you doubt this, observe how a person’s behavior changes when they drink some alcohol. Better yet, ask them how they feel the next day if they drank too much.
Since there are many good books available on nutrition, I will just briefly touch on this subject. In the early cave dwelling days there were no factories and no processed foods. Humans are designed to live on natural foods with the proper amounts of protein, carbohydrates and fat.
Eat wisely and in moderation. Also, do not become neurotic about what you eat. Your emotional state is far more important than what you eat, even though what you eat is important.
Most individuals are out of shape. How about you?
In the early days of time, humans engaged in many forms of physical activity just to survive. Your body is designed to function properly with physical exertion so it can remove toxins and secrete beneficial chemicals. If you do not believe this, exercise the next time you are depressed. Notice how much better you feel after exercising.
For your body and mind to function at their best, it is important to exercise to make up for the lack of physical activity resulting from today’s modern conveniences.
Is 20 minutes of aerobic exercise three times a week too great a price to pay for a healthy body and an alert mental state?
Sufficient rest is necessary for the body to eliminate toxins and rejuvenate itself.
Have you ever noticed that you sleep more when depressed than when you are excited and happy to be alive?
While you sleep, your brain is busy processing all the information it received during the day so that it can make spontaneous decisions when you’re awake.
When I refer to environment, I’m not just talking about the air you breathe and your physical surroundings. I am more concerned with the people around you. The electromagnetic fields they generate, as well as their thoughts and actions, can adversely affect you.
I strongly recommend associating only with positive people, or keep to yourself. The only time you should associate with negative people is when you are trying to help them. Your stronger electromagnetic field and positive thoughts and actions will have a positive effect on them.
Researchers have found that emotions, positive and negative alike, are nearly as contagious as colds and flu. You can catch feelings of elation, euphoria, sadness and more from friends, family, colleagues, even strangers.
Mood “infection” happens in milliseconds, says Elaine Hatfield, a psychology professor at the University of Hawaii in Honolulu and a coauthor of Emotional Contagion (Cambridge University Press, 1994).
When interacting with a negative person, take extra steps to remain positive. Otherwise, you may be influenced by his or her negativity.
PHYSIOLOGY: Your body reflects your emotional state. When you are positive and confident, you stand erect with your chest out and a smile on your face. If you just won Rs.10,000,000 in a prize bond, imagine how you would feel and how your physiology would respond ?
You would feel on top of the world. Everyone watching you will see it by the way you carry yourself.
Imagine how you would feel and look if you lost your winning prize bond. If this depressed you, your eyes would be down and your shoulders slumped. Some individuals would probably feel like killing themselves for losing their winning bond.
Your physiology works both ways. Your body reflects your feelings.
However, how you carry your body affects your feelings. One of the quickest and easiest ways to improve your chemistry is to change your physiology. By taking slow deep breaths, standing tall and sticking your chest out, you automatically increase your chemistry and immediately feel better. Raise your eyes to the sky and smile right now. Do you feel a change in your energy and alertness? If you always carry yourself like a winner, you will feel like a winner.
Your thoughts, diet/nutrition, exercise, rest, environment and physiology have a positive or negative impact on your brain’s chemistry that affects how well you perform and feel. To become happier and more successful, part of the process is to consciously work on increasing the chemistry of your cranial fluid so your brain can perform more efficiently and at higher levels.
” If you give sincere happiness to others only than will you receive true happiness.”